Being honest

We all have pain.  We all have issues.  What you choose to do with it is up to you.

We are meant to walk gently, brilliantly upright, joyously full of energy, in greatness, stepping beyond victimhood, and suffering.  Fully embracing life, ‘to thine own self being true’.

But, we don’t

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“Any idiot can face a crisis  –  it’s day to day living that wears you out”

Anton Chekhov

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The path to mastery – starts with recognising, and embracing, that you are probably wearing yourself out.

Struggling, stuck in fixed ways, suffering?

Some don’t know or, more accurately, are not aware.

Many are self-aware, but don’t deal effectively with being stuck or, when challenged or struggling; and, what inevitably comes next –  suffering.

Somewhere in between, there is an almost imperceptible background hum of subtle, persistent, resignation; signaling that something is not quite right, broken or, not good enough; but we don’t know why, or how to fix it.

Turning in quintessential hope, serenading anyone close-by who’ll listen, but sounding more like passing puffs of wind, we justify in short bursts, that life is fine; things are okay or, not bad; they are as good as they could be.

Analysing, evaluating, revisiting, reassessing, topping-off by adding large dollops of sincere, heart-felt contemplation, about as useful as pulling fluff out of our navel, we try to convince without much evidence.  Chattering-self-talk, arguing, commentary, adds distraction and confusion.  Putting on a brave-face to mask the incessant-fixing-need, out we go – “still crazy after all these years”

  • Harshly judging ourselves
  • Dwelling on inner dramas that have little or no basis in fact
  • Constantly comparing to others
  • Blaming yourself for things you can’t control
  • Blaming others and situations for things you CAN control

Some more?

  • Adding self-misery and intrigue through bad habits and sly-addictions
  • Not being true to you living in your head – “trapped in thoughts”
  • Falling for the misguided belief that we can’t alter who we are
  • Thinking that mistakes, setbacks, failures are ‘catastrophic’ or bad

And, what about?

  • Failing to create or achieve what you want
  • Struggling for motivation – hard to find energy and enthusiasm
  • On your own, feeling vulnerable, on the outer, don’t quite fit in
  • Believing not good enough; lacking in self confidence
  • Not being the “one” – success/fulfillment seems to be for others
  • Harried, hurried, hassled, hopeless – or anything else starting with ‘h’

We all have our own way of making ourselves miserable and unhappy.

Our unique manner of self torment and make-believe.

If you don’t think so, you’re dreamin’ (kidding yourself).

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It is possible to end damaging ourselves – over and over – as well as the suffering that comes with it –  metaphorically, smelling the roses – and, all the delight and happiness that this entails.

Strangely, many don’t, settling for the false hope that all will miraculously improve, by doing the best we can.  This is honourable, maybe at a stretch; could even be seen as admirable; but is not really living.

Holding-on, firmly clutching the old and the familiar – longtime staleness of same ol’ same ol’ – stoically putting one foot after another, whilst busily preoccupied wrestling with the slippery, constructed science, of human-doing.

Heavily groomed and relentlessly governed, pressing against time; diligently in lock-step with the soft drumbeat of a self-imposed limiting score, but missing the sweet-joy, artistry and rhythm of freely choosing human-being.

Is this you?   How would you even know?  (see tab – “Mysteries in life”)