The person who consciously creates their life discovers the domain of mastery and, that which lies beyond suffering
“All I know is as we age the weight of our unsorted baggage becomes heavier … much heavier. With each passing year, the price of our refusal to do that sorting rises higher and higher.”
“To be nobody but yourself – in a world which is doing its best, night and day, to make you everybody else – means to fight the hardest battle which any human being can fight.” E E Cummings
We live out of the deep seated illusion that we need to be, or must be, a particular way. The more we are aware of this (our tiny selves) the greater our attachment to our opinions, entitlements, and fears diminish; and we are empowered, and able to consciously, and responsibly, create our life.
However, like addicts, we get caught-up in a relentless urge to feed our habits, and bathe in the pain that’s ultimately fueling them. Stubbornly wedged in a mindset colouring complacency, we end-up grappling with, and living with, a very limiting, and lukewarm, status quo
Try as we might, despite best efforts, our false selves keep getting in the way. Wary and on guard, acting like small narcissistic trolls twitching into life in response to the slightest touch of reality.
Striking protective poses, but hiding an underlying fear of failure. Silently and assiduously unraveling fraying threads of imposter syndrome, whilst packing and stacking more creeping insecurity. “Defenses” weakened or obliterated by thinking not good enough, procrastinating, making excuses, embracing self-doubt, and avoiding taking responsibility.
Satisfaction and peace of mind have long taken wing, happiness and freedom too. Life dipped in the constructed-science of fine, getting-by, holding-on and making-it with people, when once there was the sweet artistry of adventure. This scenario playing-out over, and over again. Our very own groundhog-day; and, perambulating human condition.
Cripes! How did it come to this?
Time to try something new
(Res ipsa loquitur)
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As is a tale, so is life: not how long it is, but how good it is, is what matters – Seneca
- Most of the time we cruise through life on automatic pilot, gliding across the thin ice of denial. Spinning and turning with desired perfection – using habit, pretence, self-image – as a means of trying to avoid the still black water of disappointment, inadequacy and fear that sit below. But it doesn’t work
- We get into a spot of bother. Becoming fixated and rigid, stilted, wooden to the point of petrified-unnatural, firmly set in our ways. And suffer. Pretending that we don’t, deep-down knowing that we do
- Life taking-on a beige pastiche of getting-by, trying not to fail. Working hard at eliminating, diminishing, camouflaging our inadequacies. Needing to be careful, else small slip-ups might trigger weaknesses into view, shaming, leaving us exposed. Efforting manages to dull the vulnerability, but not making it disappear
- Unwittingly also, destroying the top, our unrealised higher potential, by replacing with a tepid, average-middle-zone. Personal upper and lower control-limits put in place, acting as self-imposed boundaries, to live within. Cautiously staying in between, cocooned, in an intimate fortified-pod-of-protection, supposedly keeping us safe, and secure
- It takes something significant to shake us from this malaise. Usually something cathartic like a divorce, death of a loved-one, loss of a job, major setback or health scare can ‘unwelcomely’ bring to our attention
- But who we are for ourselves remains doggedly fixed; and, linked to an underlying and persistent sense of not being good enough. Amid the constant humiliation, the natural thing to keep doing is deliberately shrinking our world, playing small, withdrawing, eliminating close relationships, making ourselves separate, and alone
“They say we’re young and we don’t know
We won’t find out until we grow” (I Got You Babe)
|Our very own…. Groundhog Day|
Growing new versus going through
- Taking a walk on the wild side, Mark Twain captured wonderfully well, the unheralded shortcomings and frontier-foibles of our rudimentary-view (life) – “when we remember we are all mad, the mysteries disappear and life stands explained”
- An interesting take on what Shakespeare might not have meant by ‘to thine own self be true’ nevertheless, right-on-the-money. And, it doesn’t just end there; as our ‘madness’ comes with close related ties
- For, only by realising the extent to which we are driven by the sibling vanity of our endeavours, smallness of our attachments, urgency of our aversion, can we free ourselves from our walled-constraints, and the “stuckness of our situation”. Ceasing the mindless chatter, needless action, mirage-like daydreaming, of seeking a more comfortable, controlled way, of skating through life
“What we achieve inwardly will change outer reality”
Awareness and practice not perfection leads to growth and mastery
We can awaken to self-knowledge and, a sense of who we are, through the relentless practice of observation.
Self-awareness is not analysis; nor meditating silently under a tree or, needing a mindfulness retreat to reach higher ground; it is simply noticing what we think, how we react, and what our subtle, over-used strategies for coping are.
If we notice, notice, notice; observing ourselves objectively – that is, without judgment – we can begin to see clearly our limited ideas of how we are supposed to be, how others are meant to behave, how life should turn-out.
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